When I find myself distracted and not concentrating on the breath, I don’t feel I’m particularly unkind to myself. It’s more of a neutral sort of reaction, I just put myself back on my breath like you might do with a child that has wandered off a bit. This morning though I approached it with more of a kind tone and I noticed a difference right away. It’s like the whole tone of my feelings during meditation felt much more kind and loving.
It’s not to say I wasn’t unkind to myself in the past when finding myself distracted. I remember sometimes using a phrase like ‘shut up’ or ‘stop’ in a rather abrupt tone. This definitely does not serve a loving kindness practice.
This is another great part of my practice I can gently use to allow myself a very positive practice in the future.